Everyone who has been charged with the task of caring for parents of aging, especially the only surviving parents of age, directly to tough decisions at some time during the years of their carers, whether this decision will be much more Go gentle.
When the idea first comes to mind, you can probably think of a negative rather than a positive. It is youth as a home of a guardian about the head that it is contrary to today. Since then, your overall goal has been to live separately from your parents.
The player thinks how much time he thinks depends on this idea of life. If you are unmarried separated or divorced, you may have space in your home. Its situation, combination, housing and preservation. You feel so bad using most of your parent's retirement and social security money to pay the rent because you will save them so much and who knows? It might be nice to have a company.
However, if you have a spouse or a child, the decision will be a bit more complicated. If the fact that you are thinking of moving grandma or grandpa with you with them leaks to the children, they probably will that eye After all, they love grandparents and that they live here It is very ideal. You don't know about your child, it's caused by added stress and your grandma's move.
An additional positive about the idea of letting a grandma living in your home help her medication or have a sudden medical problem and that the last thing you want happens to him or her Because there was nothing to help and because there was no help worrying about your parents Ariake's skin-friendly house "Many car trips to the condo apartment living support center. For you your family You can include food preparation in any way what you are doing.
However, "Where should Grandma live?" By most experts, if you are born to help the elderly, avoid it in other ways. For one thing, parents are parents. And grandma and grandpa get in the middle of a child discipline situation or come up with teens in the spats of couples and noses about problems
Teens are good enough to answer questions from the next grandparents. In the context of your family, you already have a fairly sophisticated conflict resolution system. And because I like your work, everyone is a signal of each other. Grandma throwing will mix.
But, as we discussed, the biggest reason not to live with your aged parents with you as a parent's carer, for a while is their well-being and your parent's happiness Carer burnout is a big problem when it comes to you. So it is good to be able to go home and leave for a while. If your sanctuary from the pressure of being a carer can be maintained, for your health, your carer, your family and for the well-being of your parent, after all, maybe Grandma, as well, from time to time You need to get away from it.
When the end approaches
Providing Care for Your Adult Relatives-Retirement is a tough job in years. And work continues to be more demanding as your parent gets older and his / her health declines. You have to make more and more difficult decisions as the end approaches, and if the effects of aging lose your mental ability, your elderly parent
If the elderly you are taking care of are dealing with the remaining end-disease diseases, those demands will be virtually overwhelming. When the end is so close, the need for your assistance will be serious. This is not the time to try to be stoic. Treating the dying elderly is usually outside the ability of the carer's child.
If you see time coming, it is time to do some sort of additional help. If the funds are in his property, they can be arranged for home care. These excellent organizations will spend as much time as you need them and providing the minister with skilled medical care for your parent's terminal illness requirements
However, once your doctor has confirmed that your parents are terminal, you will not waste time involved with hospice. It's part of Medicare, they cost nothing to your parents, and they take a huge amount of off stress skilled care, equipment and medicine Hospice for several months or care Wearing from years of giving and much fatigue unable to cope with the extra demands of the patient's last few months of life
However, the carer needs to have the carer or hospice begin to surround your parents more in preparation for his or her last day. Every aspect of your parents' needs I am very involved in When it comes to doing a good job, this is up to here. However, let's take these steps away and provide care only to those skilled caregivers who provide comfort.
This may be difficult, especially because your parents still call for you near these weeks. This warns your brother to bring to the clergy, and to be mother's bedside on her last day There are tears, but a little before the last moment comes If you can be with her, it is a closure for a very valuable family. And that helps your aging parent to have her child near her as she approaches her final transition to another life.
Hospice helps you to pass the transition in your own mind and heart as you accept the passage is near. It takes emotional courage to begin preparing for the funeral while your parents are still with you. However, this also means that if your parents accept what comes, then some things she would like to have happened about the funeral or other final arrangements
Perhaps the strange transition that only you pass as the primary caregiver takes place shortly after passing. There is always a shock when you die, even if your loved ones are highly expected. However, you go through another sweeping set of emotions that can only be described as "separation anxiety".
When you get the news that your parents have passed, you suddenly feel the burden lifting you may have been for months or years and you no longer need to worry about your parents. You do not have to take care of her food and medicine going there and comfort her any more. Lifting that pressure may be released for you and may be confusing. You will also feel strange in funeral and family times. However, keeping these feelings in your mind is a sense that only you and the other carer can understand.
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